Sometimes I think I don’t have the time
Sometimes I think I don’t have time
Emotional support
The problem with (forced) gratitude
Hey beautiful folks, How are you doing? How is life with you? I am an even mix of English and Irish, so Thanksgiving isn’t something I knew much about until I moved to California 27 years ago. It was there that I met my American husband, and after a few years we moved back to […]
Our need for belonging
Hello beautiful people, How are you? This morning I woke up and I felt scared. What are you scared of love? I ask myself. That I am not really good enough. I am just a pretty useless human being. I am not going anywhere or doing anything valuable. Oh yikes, I say, that sounds like […]
Working with our emotional health is a daily practise
Hello beautiful people, For a long, long, long time my life was one long story of overwhelm. And it was reflected in the choices I made – the short term fixes, the holding my breath, the ‘it’ll be ok soon’, the urgent pushing/doing, the sensations of just ‘hold on until it gets better’. I am […]
Disentangling yourself from other people’s emotions
Hello beautiful people, A few weeks ago, after arriving in London, my husband’s glasses were stolen at the gym. With his spare glasses in a box somewhere in a cupboard in our apartment in Spain, our only option was new glasses. A few mishaps with prescriptions followed, and so it took over 2 weeks to […]
What procrastination and overwhelm really need How are you today? Productivity experts say to break big tasks into little pieces. Work the 25 minute pomodoro method! But what if you can’t even get yourself to sit down and do the task? What if you are an expert in avoidance mode? What if breaking it down […]
Why our brain can reject change
Hello lovely people, How are you today? I wanted to share a few thoughts with you about approaching the movement we need for shifting, changing and making significant steps in the journey we are on with ourselves. Change doesn’t always feel good. In fact it can feel scary and impossible, we can feel intense aversion […]
Turning down the dial on stress, overwhelm, panic or rage
Hello beautiful people, In the work of self-exploration, on our path to find healing to the pains and challenges that we carry, it is so easy to focus on finding the answers. We set out our destination as – I need to get fixed. And I really understand this because this was my desired destination too. […]
Guided Audio For Releasing Tension & Cultivating Calm
Hello beautiful people, One thing we talk about a lot in my house is that it’s worth taking the time to work with any emotional or survival activation – that ultimately it saves time in the long run. If we are in the thick of our emotions, or survival reactivity, when we feel overwhelmed, confused, […]
A Quick & Easy Way To Bring A Sense Of Calm Into Your Body
Hello beautiful people, How are you? When we are overwhelmed It may feel like we are just desperate to get to the end of our to-do list. Or to stop our politicians being so alarming. Or to just get our kids to behave this way, not that way. But it’s safety we are actually seeking. […]
Meeting Ourselves Where We Are
How are you? Some very common comments that I hear in my coaching is, I shouldn’t be feeling like this, I should be able to deal with this, I am too old to be in this position (and this is regardless of the age of the person.) And I totally understand why we have this […]
What To Do When We Can’t Relax
Hello beautiful people, How are you today? When I learnt that our brain’s top priority is our physical safety and survival, and how that affects everything we do, and how we feel about ourselves in the world.. That if we sense any threat then our emergency survival responses will turn on… But because how […]
Why emotions feel so overwhelming
Hello lovely people, What I hear all the time when I first talk to people in my coaching is – I’m just an angry person Or I’m just a really fearful person Or I just can’t cope, I am super overwhelmed with anxiety The idea of a dominating emotion has become wedded to their identity […]
The Anguish Of Not Loving Your Body
Sometimes I feel so much sadness and regret when I think about how I’ve lived so much of my life in an intensely painful argument with myself and my body. I spent years in deep disgust at who I am, and in deep shame about how my body was formed. In anguish about all that […]
How we feel about our bodies
It was a warm summer’s day and my skin wanted nothing on it. To walk through the day with just my flesh, sweat dripping, messy hair. To have my sun caress my skin, a little cool breeze too, to lay outside in all of the beauty of the heat. Soaking up all of the sensations […]