Sometimes I think I don’t have the time
Hello beautiful people,
How are you today? This morning I woke early when it was still dark, enjoying the fresh morning air as I got my day ready. Making breakfast and packed lunches. Organising work things for the week. And then I left for a long walk and a swim.
As I walked up a hill, feeling my stiff muscles and remembering how I’d been pretty sedentary these past few days, my body felt like it was both excited to be finally moving again and irritated that I had woken it up to do something that felt hard.
And it reminded me of emotions. I thought to myself:
Sometimes I think I don’t have time
For moving my body
For listening to my emotions
For stopping and taking a breath before I react in irritation or anger
For walking and being in nature
And just lying on my balcony and gazing at the full moon to replenish and rest

But then that time is taken from me (& then some)
With emotional explosions that divert my day
With emotional repair because I’ve reacted badly with someone
With feeling punishing anger at a situation or someone
With feeling overwhelmed and at the limits of my capacity
If we don’t take the time to look after our emotions
Our day can get diverted with mishaps and turmoil
Our relationships can be full of miscommunication, blame and irritation
We get less done because our low level emotional simmer is taking up so much of our energy
Distraction keeps interfering as we struggle to focus on what is truly important to us.
Learning to look after our feelings saves us so much time.
When we can learn how to work with our emotional reactions we get hours, days, weeks of our life back.
We move out of being overwhelmed.
Out of chronic fear or explosive rage.
Of too much sadness or crushing despair.
We dig out the shame from within us, so it stops controlling our reactions – making us smaller, more afraid to be who we are in full colour.
We don’t get embroiled in other people’s feelings.
We can feel calm and confident in the midst of other people’s emotions, and not get drawn into their reactions.
These and so many more skills are possible to learn.
As someone who struggled with punishing 24/7 anxiety, a fear of everything!, damaging relationships with food & alcohol, an inability to approach the trauma I carried, an inability to not get swept up into any passing persons feelings, unable to say no and a deep punishing self-hating shame…
I know the power of liberation that awaits when we learn to understand and support our own emotional reactions.
Learning how to support ourselves and move out of panic & rage, sadness & guilt.
How to show up and be on our own side, to liberate ourselves from what feels like punishing emotional states.
To find the person within, who has been waiting here the whole time – someone with an abundance of natural positivity, calm, love to give ourselves & others, self-compassion, energy – heaps and heaps of natural energy.
Any questions? Hit reply.
Love to you,
Diana