The Power of Releasing Shame
For a long time I was utterly convinced that I was a shoddy, not very good, sort of person. That if I couldn’t meet my expectations of myself just so, I felt like I was letting my family down, myself and probably the rest of the world. If I ate the ‘wrong’ foods. If I […]
The Subtle Power of Shame
Shame is such a subtle but deeply powerful emotion, and I believe for many of us it sits at the heart of many of the challenges we have in life. Underneath other emotions like fear or anger, sadness or grief, shame for me feels like gravity. Exerting an invisible but powerful influence over our lives. […]
9 incredible skills (that feel like superpowers) you can have
Today I wanted to share some of the tools you will have when you finish my Emotional Empowerment course starting next week. Because what I teach is immensely practical, all of the tools and exercises you learn can be used as soon as you finish our lesson to make huge shifts in your life and […]
When Shame Overwhelms us
Good day beautiful people, How are you? I like to write about what’s happening in my life because when I share what’s happening for me it’s almost always something that other people can relate to. This week I have been experiencing some previously unseen layers of shame. I have been working with some of this […]
Guided Audio For Releasing Tension & Cultivating Calm
Hello beautiful people, One thing we talk about a lot in my house is that it’s worth taking the time to work with any emotional or survival activation – that ultimately it saves time in the long run. If we are in the thick of our emotions, or survival reactivity, when we feel overwhelmed, confused, […]
A Quick & Easy Way To Bring A Sense Of Calm Into Your Body
Hello beautiful people, How are you? When we are overwhelmed It may feel like we are just desperate to get to the end of our to-do list. Or to stop our politicians being so alarming. Or to just get our kids to behave this way, not that way. But it’s safety we are actually seeking. […]
Meeting Ourselves Where We Are
Hello beautiful people, How are you? Some very common comments that I hear in my coaching is, I shouldn’t be feeling like this, I should be able to deal with this, I am too old to be in this position (and this is regardless of the age of the person.) And I totally understand why […]
What To Do When We Can’t Relax
Hello beautiful people, How are you today? When I learnt that our brain’s top priority is our physical safety and survival, and how that affects everything we do, and how we feel about ourselves in the world.. That if we sense any threat then our emergency survival responses will turn on… But because how […]
Why emotions feel so overwhelming
Hello lovely people, What I hear all the time when I first talk to people in my coaching is – I’m just an angry person Or I’m just a really fearful person Or I just can’t cope, I am super overwhelmed with anxiety The idea of a dominating emotion has become wedded to their identity […]
The Anguish Of Not Loving Your Body
Sometimes I feel so much sadness and regret when I think about how I’ve lived so much of my life in an intensely painful argument with myself and my body. I spent years in deep disgust at who I am, and in deep shame about how my body was formed. In anguish about all that […]
How we feel about our bodies
It was a warm summer’s day and my skin wanted nothing on it. To walk through the day with just my flesh, sweat dripping, messy hair. To have my sun caress my skin, a little cool breeze too, to lay outside in all of the beauty of the heat. Soaking up all of the sensations […]
The Journey: A Group Transformation Program
How would you like to spend several months learning and transforming with me as your guide in a very special group program to bring expansion, transformation and ease into your life? How would you like to learn life-transforming techniques to help you bring healing to both yourself and in the intimate relationship with those around […]
One Year Of Emotional Support & Deep Transformation
I love this quote as it encapsulated perfectly how I felt before I started doing this work: I yearned so much to have a life where I was blossoming – not just trying to get by.Where I was thriving – not just trying to escape what was holding me down.I yearned to be connected to […]
Walking through darkness
My husband and I have been together for 23 years. And for a lot of it we were in a super s**tty relationship. Like AWFUL. We met when I was 21. We were both damaged, traumatised people who knew nothing about emotional safety. My coping mechanisms for life were drinking, making sure everyone around me […]
Our children don’t want us to fix them – they want to be heard
Children aren’t wired to know how to respond to emotions alone. They need us – their parents, adults, caregivers – to help them learn how to process emotions.
Fear is playing in my body….
Fear was front and centre of my life for decades. It felt like a controlling force in all of my decisions, all of my life choices. Fear felt present in everything I did. And my choices weren’t which choice wasn’t scary – but which choice was the least scary – because everything scared me.
Now that I understand why I have felt this constant companion of fear, a dysregulated nervous system, and a survival reaction that kept me in a place that felt like an emergency underground bunker, always listening out for possible danger.
I Lost my Little Girl—and almost Myself
This is my new article on Elephant Journal ‘I lost my Little Girl – and almost Myself’: check it out here.
What Your Anger Is Trying to Tell You and How to Hear It
My new article on Tiny Buddha is all about the experience and release of anger. Check it out.
Creating Emotional Resilience: Live Online Workshop with Diana Bird
Techniques to reduce anxiety, emotional overwhelm, stress, panic or anger in your life. Workshop dates: Sundays – January 16th, 23rd, 30th and February 6th, 13th and 20th, 27th 2022 Workshop time: 9am LA / 12 noon New York / 5pm London / 6pm Spain Limited to 10 people. Bringing loving attention, and transformative tools, to […]
~ SHAME ~
SHAME hits me violently in the guts and I feel like all of a sudden I am under water, looking out at the scene before me, unworthy to be this human, amongst these other humans. My mind is awash with judgement. Why do you make such terrible choices? Why aren’t you more like them? Why […]
Our need to be heard
When we share our feelings with someone, it often goes like this: – I am feeling pretty overwhelmed right now, I am so worried about…. And often we’ll receive this kind of a reply: – Well everyone’s overwhelmed right now, it’s a difficult time. Or – Well at least you have …… going on. At […]
REJECTION
REJECTION: The Workshop With Leila Elliot and Diana Bird Bringing loving attention, and transformative tools, to change our experiences of rejection We all have experienced the sensation of rejection. In fact, it’s a thread that runs through all of our lives. It pops up in unexpected places, creating pain and heartache where we don’t want […]
~ANGER~
I am viciously, violently angry. I want to scream at the top of my lungs. I want to punch something hard that will reverberate back into my body, shattering this pain. I want to pull off my skin and set it on fire. I want to cry, big violent tears. I am sitting on […]
~GRIEF~
My boy will be leaving soon. In a few months he will turn 16 and then, a couple of months later, he will leave Spain and head to another country for boarding school. My wild, tenacious, incredible boy. My heart is bursting with pride at his achievements and supplying me with never ending tears […]
~FEAR~
Today I needed to be brave. But I didn’t want to be. I wanted to run away and hide. Hide from this feeling in my body that I am being crushed from within. Hide from what I needed to do. Hide from the pressure within me that feels like it it is consuming me. […]