Hello beautiful people, One thing we talk about a lot in my house is that it’s worth taking the time to work with any emotional or survival activation – that ultimately it saves time in the long run. If we are in the thick of our emotions, or survival reactivity, when we feel overwhelmed, confused, […]
Hello beautiful people, How are you? When we are overwhelmed It may feel like we are just desperate to get to the end of our to-do list. Or to stop our politicians being so alarming. Or to just get our kids to behave this way, not that way. But it’s safety we are actually seeking. […]
How are you? Some very common comments that I hear in my coaching is, I shouldn’t be feeling like this, I should be able to deal with this, I am too old to be in this position (and this is regardless of the age of the person.) And I totally understand why we have this […]
Hello beautiful people, How are you today? When I learnt that our brain’s top priority is our physical safety and survival, and how that affects everything we do, and how we feel about ourselves in the world.. That if we sense any threat then our emergency survival responses will turn on… But because how […]
Hello lovely people, What I hear all the time when I first talk to people in my coaching is – I’m just an angry person Or I’m just a really fearful person Or I just can’t cope, I am super overwhelmed with anxiety The idea of a dominating emotion has become wedded to their identity […]
Sometimes I feel so much sadness and regret when I think about how I’ve lived so much of my life in an intensely painful argument with myself and my body. I spent years in deep disgust at who I am, and in deep shame about how my body was formed. In anguish about all that […]
It was a warm summer’s day and my skin wanted nothing on it. To walk through the day with just my flesh, sweat dripping, messy hair. To have my sun caress my skin, a little cool breeze too, to lay outside in all of the beauty of the heat. Soaking up all of the sensations […]
My husband and I have been together for 23 years. And for a lot of it we were in a super s**tty relationship. Like AWFUL. We met when I was 21. We were both damaged, traumatised people who knew nothing about emotional safety. My coping mechanisms for life were drinking, making sure everyone around me […]
Children aren’t wired to know how to respond to emotions alone. They need us – their parents, adults, caregivers – to help them learn how to process emotions.
My new article on Tiny Buddha is all about the experience and release of anger. Check it out.
When we share our feelings with someone, it often goes like this: – I am feeling pretty overwhelmed right now, I am so worried about…. And often we’ll receive this kind of a reply: – Well everyone’s overwhelmed right now, it’s a difficult time. Or – Well at least you have …… going on. At […]
